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When people are experiencing mental health struggles and looking for a therapist, they often start with an online search. They may search for things like Best Therapist Online, or Best Therapy. What comes up in such a search is usually based on marketing budgets. Big clinics who pay large sums of money to be able to come up in these searches based on those search terms. What may be missing in that the best therapist for you may not be part of one of these big agencies or clinics.
Unlike products which can be rated for overall quality, best therapists really have a lot to do with “best therapist for me”. In other words, a good fit. So, what is the best therapist for you? How do you search for the right therapist before you begin your therapy? In addition to finding an experienced therapist, and licensed therapists, you want to make sure they have the background for treating anxiety, treating eating disorders, or other mental health concerns that you may bring. Yet, while the best therapist for you should be familiar with the issue you bring – that still may not be the best “fit”. So, what else should you look for in finding the best therapist for you? How can you narrow the search to find the best therapist from large lists of experienced therapists? How does someone find the best therapist for their mental health concerns specifically? For example, finding the best therapist for anxiety, or the best therapist for eating disorders? Or the best therapist for marriage counselling? How do you determine what the best approach is for the concern you are bringing to therapy? You may also consider if the approach that therapist uses is a good match. Therapists who use CBT, or EFT, or DBT may be important to you. However, research shows that effective therapy is not based on the modality the therapist uses. While they should have the experience, training and background and the method should fit your needs, there are other important considerations. Many people looking for their own best therapist may not realize is that personality is important. This is where a free consultation comes in. Once you find therapists who are experienced, licensed, use an approach you think is a good fit – you want to find the therapist that would be best at what is called core skills, or foundational skills and personality that works best at making you feel heard, understood and respected. You own best therapist might be direct, or more gentle, structured or more go-with-the-flow, goal directed and present-focused or more interested in exploring developmental issues to understand how the past shaped patterns you experience today. Again, regardless of the therapy approach, they need to have the core, foundational skills to help you feel comfortable. The best therapist meets all these requirements, not the one that shows up on a list. At our clinic we do our best to explore a potential clients’ expectations, needs and interpersonal style and match them with an experienced therapist whose approach would also be a potential good fit. We understand the importance of therapist-client matching and take a personalized approach. Reach out to our clinic director if you want to talk about options for the best therapist choice within our practice or our network. You deserve to find the best therapist for you. Many people talk about “ADHD paralysis”, describing it as times where they are unable to initiate tasks or stay focused on goals, and may be having racing ideas but lacking clarify to make decisions. Hours go by without being able to be productive. Guilt and shame can follow, with the avoidance that often goes hand in hand with shame.
While “ADHD paralysis” is not a diagnostic term, it can be thought of as part of the executive dysfunction of ADHD. This can include difficulties in organization of self and life tasks which includes initiating tasks (Roselló et al., 2020). Those diagnosed with ADHD need to learn what contributes to symptom severity and what helps cope with or improve things. Sometimes people with ADHD experience mental fatigue and less goal directedness because of being somewhat dysregulated (Isaac et al., 2024). The ups and downs of energy and mood itself can be tiring. Interestingly, emerging evidence suggests that low ferritin levels are more common in individuals with ADHD and may contribute to the severity of symptoms through impact on dopamine (Wang et al., 2017; Tseng et al., 2018). Low ferritin can contribute to poor concentration, brain fog and memory problems as well as irritability, anxiety, and symptoms of depression. These effects may even occur in the absence of clinical anemia, making it super important to consider ferritin levels in managing ADHD symptoms and evaluating any unexplained mood-related or cognitive concerns. This can be identified if blood tests look at serum ferritin (iron stores) which can be low even when hemoglobin is normal. Experienced therapists who work with clients with ADHD understand the importance of being part of a care team and helping clients to develop good self care habits. They may encourage clients and help with skills to organize. They may promote self-acceptance around the ebbs and flows of energy levels. They may help clients recognize the importance of rest when mental or physical fatigue sets in, instead of wrestling with guilt and shame. Therapists may collaborate inter-professionally to ensure that ferritin levels and overall nutritional status is monitored. They are familiar with the science and evidence-based treatment, which is not aimed at eradicating ADHD - a neurological condition - but instead understanding what skills, coping and self care can be enhanced to support clients. At our clinic we have several experienced therapists with expertise in working with clients to have ADHD to enhance executive function, self care and coping. Reach out and speak with the clinic director to see how we can help with ADHD. Beard, J. L. (2003). Iron deficiency alters brain development and functioning. The Journal of Nutrition, 133(5 Suppl 1), 1468S-1472S. https://doi.org/10.1093/jn/133.5.1468S McCann, J. C., & Ames, B. N. (2007). An overview of evidence for a causal relation between iron deficiency during development and deficits in cognitive or behavioral function. The American Journal of Clinical Nutrition, 85(4), 931-945. https://doi.org/10.1093/ajcn/85.4.931 Falkingham, M., Abdelhamid, A., Curtis, P., Fairweather-Tait, S., Dye, L., & Hooper, L. (2010). The effects of oral iron supplementation on cognition in older children and adults: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Nutrition Journal, 9, 4. https://doi.org/10.1186/1475-2891-9-4 Isaac, V., Lopez, V., & Escobar, M. J. (2024). Arousal dysregulation and executive dysfunction in attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Frontiers in Psychiatry, 14, Article 1336040. https://doi.org/10.3389/fpsyt.2023.1336040 [frontiersin.org], [doaj.org] Roselló, B., Berenguer, C., Baixauli, I., Mira, Á., Martinez-Raga, J., & Miranda, A. (2020). Empirical examination of executive functioning, ADHD associated behaviors, and functional impairments in adults with persistent ADHD, remittent ADHD, and without ADHD. BMC Psychiatry, 20(1), 134. https://doi.org/10.1186/s12888-020-02542-y Tseng, P. T., Cheng, Y. S., Yen, C. F., Chen, Y. W., Stubbs, B., Whiteley, P., Carvalho, A. F., Li, D. J., Chen, T. Y., Yang, W. C., Tang, C. H., Chu, C. S., Liang, H. Y., Wu, C. K., & Lin, P. Y. (2018). Peripheral iron levels in children with attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Scientific Reports, 8, 788. https://doi.org/10.1038/s41598-017-19096-x Wang, Y., Huang, L., Zhang, L., Qu, Y., & Mu, D. (2017). Iron status in attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder: A systematic review and meta-analysis. PLOS ONE, 12(1), e0169145. https://doi.org/10.1371/journal.pone.0169145 [pubmed.ncb...lm.nih.gov], [journals.plos.org] Shirley Katz, Ph.D., RP, CCC
Differentiating ADHD from Trauma ADHD diagnoses and requests for assessment have significantly increased in recent years. Research suggests that the trend is a result of increased awareness, reduced stigma, and better diagnostic practices, rather than a rise of ADHD. For example, ADHD in women and girls can look different, and in the past may have been overlooked but now are increasingly identified. Currently, statistics indicate that about 6% of adults have a current ADHD diagnosis and about half were diagnosed as adults. Actual incidence has not increased. It is noteworthy that ADHD and trauma response can look similar. Shared symptoms like distractibility or inattention, restlessness and fidgeting, emotional dysregulation make diagnosis and treatment complex. Treatment for ADHD and treatment for Post Traumatic Stress response are different, though both can look similar and have negative impacts on work, school and relationships. Key Distinctions ADHD is a neurodevelopmental disorder with symptoms usually beginning in childhood with persistent difficulties in functioning are seen across settings. Challenges are seen in self-regulation, working memory, and organization. Hyperactivity, if present, is chronic and not linked to anxiety or perceived threat. Recent research also elaborates on adult ADHD symptoms to include feelings of mental hyperactivity or a sense of restlessness without obvious physical hyperactivity. In the case of trauma response, symptoms emerge after a traumatic event, or chronic adverse experiences. Difficulties focusing or attending and staying on task are a result of being hypervigilant and constantly monitoring for threat. Being ‘hyper’ looks more like anxiety or being on edge. Symptoms can fluctuate depending on exposure to triggers or reminders of trauma. ADHD and PTSD can co-occur. Assessment Considerations When clinicians who diagnose want to differentiate, they explore if the symptoms are more suggestive of trauma. For example, do they include intrusive memories or flashbacks, avoidance of trauma reminders, emotional numbing or dissociation experiences? Is there an exaggerated startle response? Are the symptoms tied to a specific traumatic experience or experiences? Are symptoms worse with reminders of the traumatic experience? Do the symptoms show consistency across settings and over time? Identifying Trauma Trauma can mimic ADHD and contribute to misdiagnosis. Accurate diagnosis helps with treatment, and should include a developmental history, trauma assessment, and evaluation of the context and timing of symptoms. If someone has already been diagnosed, a psychotherapist can help with the treatment plan. Sometimes, related to the amount of time therapists spend getting to know clients, they can recognize when a person needs a diagnosis and when there has been one or multiple traumas. Some people do not recognize their experiences as traumatic. There are many experiences that impact mental wellness and some of them can be normalized by the context or social environment a person is living in. There is no real consensus about shared trauma. Sometimes a good therapist can identify experiences and their impact and help a client get the treatment they need. For example, scholars have begun to discuss how the COVID-19 pandemic and associated lockdowns/quarantines impacted people as a form of collective trauma. Shared or collective trauma events are those that are experienced by groups or societies at the same time, which disrupted shared assumptions about safety and predictability, and impacted social connection. Researchers have argued that COVID-19 fits this description as it involved uncertainty, prolonged stress, grief, social isolation and widespread threat of illness and death as well as economic disruption. Some scholars note that the lockdowns increased anxiety, depression, sleep disturbance loneliness, grief and loss, stress symptoms, disruptions to routines, identity, and belonging. This was worse for those with prior traumas, or people who experienced severe isolation, significant loss, violence at home, etc. Many people with obsessive-compulsive symptoms got worse during and after the COVID-19 pandemic and some people began to experience OCD at that time. For some people, the impact of the pandemic persisted. If symptoms that look like ADHD only emerged after lockdowns, it may be worthwhile to explore if the stress of the pandemic had a long-term impact. Not everyone was impacted the same way. Some were resilient, adaptive and learned coping strategies, some were negatively impacted in ways that might persist. A person does not have to meet the clinical threshold for PTSD to be helped with distress or symptoms that result from these experiences. Treatment Differences In ADHD treatment, the therapist may act as a type of coach, teacher or skills trainer to help with client self management. After getting to know the client and developing rapport and trust, they may help clients to develop compensatory strategies for executive function issues (time management, organization, task initiating). They may use CBT, Behavioral strategies or psychoeducation to improve day-to-day functioning and reduce impairment. Treatment is usually focused on the present and future, focused on adapting to a condition rather than processing the past. In trauma treatment, the focus is on safety. The role of the therapist may be more on meaning-making, challenging unhelpful beliefs about the experience, facilitating emotional processing and improving coping with stress – focused on recovery from the psychological and physiological impact of the traumatic experiences. It may involve understanding how the past continues to shape present patterns. Initial stages would include stabilization, then processing and integration rather than moving into skill acquisition. Importantly, people with symptoms of PTSD can respond variably to ADHD medications. Stimulant medication may improve attention and executive functioning in those with co-occurring ADHD, but can also exacerbate anxiety, hypervigilance, and sleep disturbance. This is more complicated when these issues co-occur. A Registered Psychotherapist can help a client identify what kinds of symptoms they are experiencing, and understand whether they have always been there, or emerged after an experience, either personal or shared, one time or chronic. While a Registered Psychotherapist does not diagnose mental disorders the way a Psychologist or Medical practitioner does. However, a core competency is to be able to understand, recognize, assess and work with diagnostic formulations and symptom presentations as part of conceptualization issues, treatment planning and progress monitoring. If you are dealing with symptoms of distress, whether from an identified experience or not, it can be worthwhile to discuss your experience and your wellness goals with a trusted therapist who may, as part of treatment, may suggest seeking out a differential diagnosis or refer you to an appropriate resource. Reach out and ask for a consultation if needed. Cénat, J. M., Blais-Rochette, C., Kokou-Kpolou, C. K., Noorishad, P. G., Mukunzi, J. N., McIntee, S. E., et al. (2021). Prevalence of symptoms of depression, anxiety, insomnia, posttraumatic stress disorder, and psychological distress among populations affected by the COVID-19 pandemic: A systematic review and meta-analysis. Psychiatry Research, 295, 113599. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.psychres.2020.113599 Dahan, S., Levi, G., & Segev, R. (2022). Shared trauma during the COVID-19 pandemic: Psychological effects on Israeli mental health nurses. International Journal of Mental Health Nursing, 31(3), 722-730. Gradus, J. L., & Galea, S. (2023). Moving from traumatic events to traumatic experiences in the study of traumatic psychopathology. American Journal of Epidemiology, 192(10), 1609-1612. https://doi.org/10.1093/aje/kwad126 Herman, J. L. (2022). Trauma and recovery (Rev. ed.). Basic Books. Isobel, S., Goodyear, M., Furness, T., & Foster, K. (2022). A review of ADHD and childhood trauma: Treatment challenges and clinical guidance. Current Treatment Options in Psychiatry, 9(4), 409-423. https://doi.org/10.1007/s40474-022-00256-2 Kalsched, D. (2021). Intersections of personal vs. collective trauma during the COVID-19 pandemic: The hijacking of the human imagination. Journal of Analytical Psychology, 66(3), 443-462. Kooij, J. J. S., Bijlenga, D., Salerno, L., Jaeschke, R., Bitter, I., Balázs, J., Thome, J., Dom, G., Kasper, S., Nunes Filipe, C., Stes, S., Mohr, P., Leppämäki, S., Casas, M., Bobes, J., Mccarthy, J. M., Richarte, V., Kjems Philipsen, A., Pehlivanidis, A., ... Asherson, P. (2019). Updated European Consensus Statement on diagnosis and treatment of adult ADHD. European Psychiatry, 56, 14-34. Lowe, S. M., Haugen, P. T., Marrone, K., Rosen, R., & Reissman, D. B. (2021). The COVID-19 pandemic and the five essential elements in mass trauma intervention: Perspectives from World Trade Center Health Program mental health clinicians. Psychiatry, 84(4), 386-392. Magdi, H. M., Abousoliman, A. D., Ibrahim, A. M., Elsehrawy, M. G., El-Gazar, H. E., & Zoromba, M. A. (2025). Attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder and post-traumatic stress disorder adult comorbidity: A systematic review. Systematic Reviews, 14, 41. https://doi.org/10.1186/s13643-025-02774-7 Manor, I. (2025). Childhood ADHD and trauma. Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry, 64(10 Suppl.), S384. Neiers, M. (2025). A clinical pathway for differential diagnosis of ADHD vs trauma: Early childhood recognition and intervention (Doctoral paper). University of Denver. disorder diagnosis, treatment, and telehealth use in adults: United States, October-November 2023. Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report, 73(40), 890-895. Paul, E. C., et al. (2024). Trends in new adult ADHD diagnoses from 2016-2023. Psychiatric Research and Clinical Practice. Pugi, D., Angelo, N. L., Ragucci, F., Garcia-Hernandez, M. D., Rosa-Alcázar, A. I., & Pozza, A. (2023). Longitudinal course of obsessive-compulsive symptoms during the COVID-19 pandemic: A systematic review of three years of prospective cohort studies. Clinical Neuropsychiatry, 20(4), 293-308. https://doi.org/10.36131/cnfioritieditore20230409 Santomauro, D. F., Mantilla Herrera, A. M., Shadid, J., Zheng, P., Ashbaugh, C., Pigott, D. M., et al. (2021). Global prevalence and burden of depressive and anxiety disorders in 204 countries and territories in 2020 due to the COVID-19 pandemic. The Lancet, 398(10312), 1700-1712. https://doi.org/10.1016/S0140-6736(21)02143-7 Staley, B. S., Robinson, L. R., Claussen, A. H., Katz, S. M., Danielson, M. L., Summers, A. D., Farr, S. L., Blumberg, S. J., & Tinker, S. C. (2024). Attention-deficit/hyperactivity Wood, A. C., et al. (2025). Global prevalence and incidence of ADHD before and after the COVID-19 pandemic: A systematic review. Journal of Attention Disorders. Commonly reported among creative clients and those with ADHD is a sense of agitation around apathy. A combination of low mood and energy, confusion about what a person wants or needs but not feeling settled. In this state one can spend hours coming up with ideas about what to do, and feel a strong sense of missing out. It is akin to chasing a tail in circles. It leads to frustration. Basically, it is an unsettling feeling or impulse that one must do something or figure something out and not being able to. It emerges when there is little structure. What is the best thing to do when feeling this way? Realize, like a little bit of anxiety, it can help to use mindfulness and relaxation. Radical acceptance works too. Speaking to oneself by journal or outloud saying compassionate things and accepting things helps.by Shirley Katz, Ph.D., RP, Clinic Director
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